The embrace reciprocity

Johanna writes about why women can't sometimes understand why other women get all the dances.

I must say I can relate to this (imaginary?) point. If you really dance tango because of the music and are deeply connected to the music, you want someone that also has that passion. I couldn't care less if she can dance upside down or has impecable technique (just needs to have balance of course...). If the embrace is musically sterile the whole thing is pointless. Besides, great dancers tend to have this big ego and that just screws up people's minds.

Lately I've been growing a bit annoyed of women that dance with a guy as if it was just a dance. It isn't just a dance. At least for anyone serious about it. It has to be an experience, a moment unique in time and space. Just sit if you don't feel like dancing in the deepest sense of the word. This isn't a practica. As someone commented on Johanna's post, you can have a feeling of what lies ahead the moment you embrace a woman.

With a great dancer you want to dance forever simple moves, slowly, melodically and eager to see how she interprets it. How her smile (that you can't really see) will get right back at you as a tsunami of confidence. With the plain vanilla technique obsessed dancer you normally try hard to convey feeling and you get back a sad face because you didn't do/try the latest and greatest trick of a recent workshop. The dance will feel like a workout instead of a blissful magic moment shared by two human beings.

Let go of technicalities and spend 3 times more time listening to music and feeling, interpreting and dancing it in your mind than practicing the latest technical challenge. In the grand overview of it all, any man will rather dance with you than anyone else. The more experienced I get, the more I see how enjoyable it can be to dance with a very beginner follower that is into the music...

Unless he's not there for the music experience. I am sorry for you then.